So there is this guy at my store who asks me to hang out with him or go on a date with him almost every time I see him. I've repeatedly told him no, but he continues. It makes me uncomfortable, but I'm pretty sure he does this to other people in the store, including guys as a joke, and I'm pretty sure he's harmless as he has my phone number but has never done any thing with it. It's getting to the point where I try to avoid him, and am feeling like I'm being harassed. I'm considering telling him one more time to leave me alone and that if he doesn't I'll report him to HR. I don't want him to get in trouble, I just want him to stop. Is this a proper course of action?
Archived Possible Harassment?
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Write down everything that has happened.
Times, dates, where, when, how often, who was around, every detail you can think of, but keep the observations factual.
When you do talk about your feelings use the words 'unsafe workplace' and 'uncomfortable' like you did.
Don't judge the person on looks, style, smell, anything that can be thrown back at you.
You might no want to mention that he has your phone number.
Report it to HR immediately.
Don't let him get away with the "it's only a joke" bullshit either.
You don't deserve to be creeped on and neither does anyone else you work with.
Times, dates, where, when, how often, who was around, every detail you can think of, but keep the observations factual.
When you do talk about your feelings use the words 'unsafe workplace' and 'uncomfortable' like you did.
Don't judge the person on looks, style, smell, anything that can be thrown back at you.
You might no want to mention that he has your phone number.
Report it to HR immediately.
Don't let him get away with the "it's only a joke" bullshit either.
You don't deserve to be creeped on and neither does anyone else you work with.
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Why on earth does he have your number lol
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Contact your etl or hr without delay. That jokester needs to be stop now.
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Ah, Jack...
You just beat out my degreaser.
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Buy some mace and put it in your pocket. Also, tell HR and the STL. If the guy has touched your booty or chest, definitely tell someone and have that mace ready.
You could turn him in to the EHR or have alittle fun with it like let a burp out or just pass some gas. Granted if he likes that then getting him trouble is better idea. I know it's crazy thought but some times got to think outside the box
No physical harassment. Just persistent asking. He didn't bother me at all today. Maybe word got back to him I was getting fed up with him.
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well if you don't want him to get into trouble going to HR will most likely do that. AP will open a safe and secure plan on you. You will have a AP or LOD escort into the store and when you leave. You get to park at the front of the store. He will be required not to talk to you not unless it's business related. But since it's he said she said...a safe and secure plan will be opened for him as well. The same rules apply to him.
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Sexual harassment is probably my least favorite thing to deal with in the workplace.
I've dealt with it a lot.
I've spent many hours going back and forth about whether to deal with a given situation myself or take it to HR. In a perfect world taking something to HR should never blow back on you and people should do their jobs and be held accountable for their actions.
In reality, the situations where I've handled the issue myself have turned out a lot better.
Use your words. Make HIM uncomfortable by directly addressing his behavior. Say, "I will never date you. I don't like it when you ask me me out. It's not cute or funny so stop." DO NOT SAY, "Hey, you're a really nice guy, I'm sure there's a girl out there for you- it's just that I'm not really in a place where I want to go out with anyone at all right now, I'm sorry!" You do not owe it to him to make him feel good about himself while he's harassing you. Be okay with him thinking you're a bitch even though he's the one in the wrong.
I've dealt with it a lot.
I've spent many hours going back and forth about whether to deal with a given situation myself or take it to HR. In a perfect world taking something to HR should never blow back on you and people should do their jobs and be held accountable for their actions.
In reality, the situations where I've handled the issue myself have turned out a lot better.
Use your words. Make HIM uncomfortable by directly addressing his behavior. Say, "I will never date you. I don't like it when you ask me me out. It's not cute or funny so stop." DO NOT SAY, "Hey, you're a really nice guy, I'm sure there's a girl out there for you- it's just that I'm not really in a place where I want to go out with anyone at all right now, I'm sorry!" You do not owe it to him to make him feel good about himself while he's harassing you. Be okay with him thinking you're a bitch even though he's the one in the wrong.
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